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Jules: Can we talk about staying in balance? I have a pretty moody boss. He can be darn rude at times. He even uses some pretty crude language. Sometimes I find myself affected by his behavior and get thrown off balance. Either I respond just as emotionally by telling him off or I don’t feel good about what he has said. What can I do about it?Mr OWO: Yes, this is a common problem that a lot of people have. It is not just at work but at anytime in the conduct of daily lives. It can also happen at home with a spouse and whoever we interact with in our life. That are many ways to deal with this kind of problem. I will give you one suggestion today for staying in balance. Try this. Investigate the times when you are moody. When would that be?Jules: Usually it is when I am tired and want some rest.Mr OWO: Our human body has its limitations.  Any other situations?Jules: When something is bothering me. Well, like what you said there are so many people and situations which put us in a negative state.Mr OWO: And do you find yourself getting irritated even with someone else who is not the cause of that negative state in the first place?Jules: I most certainly have.Mr OWO: Most of the time it is like this. Your boss could be a moody sort of fellow and his state of being could have started with an argument with his wife at the breakfast table  or that he has had an early morning message on his Blackberry from his own boss on why he missed a deal. He is having troubles of his own dealing with his own negative emotions to his life situations. Add whatever you have done or did not do to the list and you can imagine the strain he is going through. So take a different perspective. Do not take it personally but just shrug it off. Be understanding towards your boss as he is having a hard time. You will find that you won’t dwell on the encounter with your boss because you have not taken his actions to heart. You should then be able to preserve your own positive state and to stay in balance.Jules: I never thought that changing a point of view could make a difference to preserving one’s positive state.. Thought I had to look at ways to handle my negative emotions after such encounters with my boss.Mr OWO: This is better. The negative state does not even arise and you do not have a problem to resolve.Jules: Thanks for the perspective of staying in balance.

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